I haven’t participated in Ask Away Friday for a while. Sometimes I get a little self conscious answering questions about myself.
But when Steph from So, I’ve Been Thinking… asked me to join her, I couldn’t say no. Steph lives 5 minutes from my house, and I have known her for years…10 to be exact. We were friends before we were blog friends. A couple things you might want to know about Steph….
- She is a lot of fun to hang around with.
- She is an expert cocktail maker…and a really good cook too.
- She’s also a great photographer…check out the photos on her blog!
- She could teach a defensive driving course, and she is outstanding at off the cuff rants at stupid drivers. The language may or may not be appropriate for my blog. Ok, it’s not.
- She and I get ourselves into trouble together when we travel. We have flown to two blog conferences together, and almost missed our flight FOUR times. We do not have a good track record. At least two of those times we were at the airport well in advance.
Here we are at BlogU. We’re in the back row…I’m second on the left, Steph is third.
Before, I get to the questions Steph has sent me, let me tell you a little bit about Ask Away Friday. It’s a fun way for bloggers to get to know each other better, by asking questions. It’s supposed to be ten questions. Steph and I decided to deviate and do five instead this week. Ask Away Friday is hosted by:
- Tamara from Tamara Like Camera
- Tiffany from Mrs. Tee Love Life Laughter
- Christy from Uplifting Families
- Stacey from This Momma’s Ramblings
- Amber from Bold Fit Mom
And this week it’s also hosted by Steph from So, I’ve Been Thinking…, which is another reason I could not say no! I hope you will go over to her blog and check out the questions I asked her as well!
I remember when we first met. You’ve mentioned you may have forgotten. What is your first recollection of our friendship?
It might be peeking in the window at the kids after we dropped them off for the first day of preschool. I think E was crying, and I would guess that Scar was not, although I honestly don’t remember.
What I do remember though is feeling terribly out of place with that group of preschool moms because even though I wasn’t an older mom, I was the “old mom” in that group of women.
You have admitted you can fall asleep anywhere. You’ve fallen asleep on the couch at one of my parties. I don’t throw lame parties so I wasn’t (or try not to be) insulted. Where is the funniest place you have ever fallen asleep.
You shouldn’t be insulted. I really hope you weren’t. Your parties are not lame AT ALL. I just don’t get enough sleep. I only fall asleep at good friends’ parties…people who I know won’t judge me. People that don’t know me probably think I am really lame. And I guess I am. But I do usually rally at some point. I only take cat naps. I’m not down for the count, and I have never slept all night on anyone’s couch! Sometimes I take my naps with other people’s dogs. I used to fall asleep at college parties too. I am surprised no one has drawn a mustache on me yet. I hope no one ever does. It would serve me right though.
I have fallen asleep on a chair lift, and at a bar. And many times in my college classes…but one of my most notable was a smaller class, where it was very obvious. The professor told the student next to me to hit me over the head with a newspaper. That was embarrassing. I never fell asleep in that class again.
I know you to be very driven and very much of the mindset “I’m doing this and I will be successful” and you are. You are always successful. What fuels that drive? Have you always been that way?
I think that believing you can do something is half the battle. If you act confident, you will be confident. I don’t give up easily.
And no, I was not always that way. I was very insecure in school. Q (my college cross country and track coach) was a big influence on me gaining confidence in myself.
The big turning point for me though in terms of my confidence were my years in direct sales. One thing about direct sales, is if you make the right friends, you have an amazing support system. In spite of the fact that I no longer work in that field, these two women were, and still are a blessing in my life. I can go long periods of time without talking to them (we don’t live near each other), and we can pick right back up where we left off.
On the flip side – we all have those moments where we are rocked with self doubt and have to take a step back. Can you explain/describe one if your moments and how you broke through?
I try not to let self doubt in…but sometimes there’s a fear that keeps nudging at you…”can I?” “What if people laugh at me?”
When I worked in direct sales, I was asked to speak at a conference. My public speaking experiences were limited to talking to maybe a group of twenty people in a room, which hardly counts. The thought of doing it was terrifying. I could have said no. But I didn’t. I practiced and practiced and practiced. It went well. It gave me confidence, and the next time I was asked, it was easier. And believe it or not, as nervous as I was, I enjoyed it too.
At my last job, public speaking was a necessity. I had to give presentations to consumers and to industry members. It wasn’t a big deal at all…because I had already forced myself out of my comfort zone and faced my fears.
I look at my children and cannot help but reflect on the similarities between their lives and mine. When I see our sons, who have known each other since they were 3, interact and I watch their friendship flourish and grow and change I am amazed at how they handle the ups and downs, different friends, sports etc. they have a lot of differences. Yet, they are still very good friends. Have you noticed? What do you think of their friendship? Do you think it is similar or different than some of your important friendships?
One of the things I love about my son is he is a very loyal friend. When I asked him how he and Scar remained friends all these years even though they didn’t play the same sports or have the same friends, or even see each other in classes, he looked at me like it was a strange question and said “we’ve always been friends.” For him, they connected, and they both have a passion for snowboarding, and they like a lot of similar things. Scar has gotten E hooked on Airsoft, and E has got Scar planning to paintball with him.
They definitely have very different personalities…Scar is much more laid back. He rolls with things. E rolls sometimes, other times not so much. He doesn’t mind just doing his own thing either.
E is goofy. Just look at the picture below and you will see what I mean. E is always trying to pull the wool over your eyes. When they went to camp back in preschool, he created this elaborate story about feeding butterflies to tarantulas. I was appalled and called Steph to find out if Scar had told her about that. When she asked, Scar told her E was telling a tall tale. E stuck by his story, and did it well, until I tracked down a camp counselor in the morning, who also informed me it was a tall tale. E’s response? “Gotcha!”
Welcome back to the Ladies Only Blog Share, otherwise known as #LOBS! This week we’re talking about beating the heat this summer! Link up your recipes, crafts, hot topics, and don’t forget about the 4th of July!
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Thursday 26th of June 2014
i'm similar in being a loyal friend. i have really good friends from high school who were all in my wedding party. what's interesting is that they're not necessarily friends with each other. but when we all got together for my bridal shower, we all had such a good time hanging out. everyone was like, we have to do that again. that was so much fun.
Thursday 26th of June 2014
I really want to go to a blogging conference one day. I hope they have one in the Dallas area so that I am close enough to home.
I also enjoy watching my own children grow up and become their own person. My daughter is 17 and in a few years she will be old enough to move out (maybe). Very scary.
Tuesday 24th of June 2014
What a fabulous swap! I tend to doze off in my recliner on occasion, but I don't get enough sleep either. I have dozed in a bar, too, and at a Waffle House! LOL! It is so great that your kids have remained such good friends, through the years. I also have a couple of friends that even though we don't talk often, when we do, we could be there a while! Hope you have a great week, Michelle!
Monday 23rd of June 2014
Ha! I love the random falling asleep question :) And how sweet that your sons are such good friends! I think I'm inspired by both of you with your blog conferences and public speaking! I need to work on my getting-out-there skills!
Sunday 22nd of June 2014
This is such a fun q & a since you know each other so well! I'm really trying to figure out how you can fall asleep on a chair lift though. That's pretty impressive. And I guess I won't be flying with the two of you. I hate being late! :)
Sunday 22nd of June 2014
If I am tired, I can catnap just about anywhere. If I was on the chairlift alone, I don't think I'd do it. It's probably smart to not fly with us. We are a pretty pathetic travel pair. We do have fun though. And we haven't missed a plane yet. Just almost....